The comments last week by Democratic strategist Hilary Rosen have sparked debate about the role of the stay-at-home mother. Rosen's comments should come as no surprise to anyone who regularly follows politics. The left have always despised the stay-at-home mom and the role she plays in our society, and there are 2 big reasons:
1. The Women's Liberation Movement
A stay at home mom is a threat to the women's movement. The traditional role of the woman in the home was always what you saw in the 50's and 60's TV shows and movies. The woman stayed at home, took care of the kids, cleaned the house, and had dinner and a pipe ready for the man when he walked in the door. That was how it was back then. I'm not saying it's right, but that was a woman's ideal role. Unless you were a teacher or a nurse, you did not belong in the workplace. The 70's saw a women's liberation movement... a well-needed one. Women started going to college en masse and entered the workplace. The pay was horrendous, as chauvinistic employers who retained the traditional thought that "a women's place is in the home" would either not hire women or just pay them much less for doing the same job that a man does. This led to equal opportunity laws that made it illegal to discriminate based on sex.
These were all positive changes in our society. However, with so many women entering the work force, there were an increasing number of homes with both parents working. My home was one of them. Kids would have to go to after-school day care or in the cases where the children were older, they would come home from school to an empty house. These kids soon earned the moniker, "latch key kids". Each home was different. For some, the situation was fine and the home didn't suffer. For others, the kids would start getting into trouble. Some parents, (mostly moms) started deciding that they didn't want to miss out on their kids' childhood. A lot of women who were heavily involved in the women's lib movement saw this migration back to the home as detrimental to their movement. "We worked hard for your freedom to escape the shackles of domestic bandage and now you want to return to your captor?" That kind of thing.
The women's lib movement found a home on the left. This was no surprise. As I illustrated, the single-worker family was destructive to their movement by promoting the "traditional" family of the man working and the woman staying true to her maternal instincts and staying home. But this disdain towards those women who chose to stay home was severely misplaced. The pre-lib woman stayed home because society said she should. The post-lib woman stays home because she chooses to do so. This freedom of women's choice is ironically frowned upon by the left-wing social elites in this country. The women's liberation movement reached an iconic status, almost to the point of dogma. If you're a woman, you have to go to college and get a "real" job. If you choose not to do that, you are inferior to those who do. It actually goes against the whole original idea of the movement of freedom of choice and actual "liberation". Now, non-working mothers are derided and shunned today almost the same way that working mothers were back before the movement. Personally, I believe that every woman has the freedom to do with her life what she wants. I also believe that single-worker families are ideal for raising children. In today's society there are even examples of double-worker families that allow one of the parents to stay home and work, and I think that's great. But it all comes down to what you believe in and what choices you want to make for your family. Stay-at-home moms (and dads) contribute as much to this society as anyone else.
2. "It Takes a Village"
We all remember Hilary Clinton's quote, "It takes a village to raise a child". This can be interpreted a few different ways, but let me tell you how I think the correct way to interpret it is and then I'll show you how it is used by the left as a reason to bash the stay-at-home mom.
I believe that it does "take a village" in that you obviously can keep your kid locked up in a cage until they are 18. Obviously, they need to interact with society. School, sports, the playground, the grocery store, etc. We all look out for each others kids. Growing up, I was just as afraid of getting caught doing something by my neighbors or my teacher or my friend's parents than I was my own parents. I knew that there was a communication network and that my folks would find out from someone that I was up to no good. For the most part, this kept me in line and that's how I was essentially "raised by my village". But in the end, my parents by far had the greatest role in raising me. Yes, as I mentioned before, I was a latch-key kid, but that wasn't until I was well into middle school. When my folks weren't there after school, my friends parents were. I would spend time at their house. It wasn't the ideal situation, by my parents had to support the household in any way they could and I respect them for that. They still were very active in my upbringing and I will always view them as the driving influence for the values that I have developed to this day.
However, the way the "village" quote is interpreted by many on the left is "you don't completely know what you are doing as a parent. The village will raise your kid while you go out and work." This mentality is so engrained in our society that we are often throwing in the towel on parenting and letting our schools run the show. Do you ever wonder why there is a constant push to make the schools more and more a part of the equation? There is a very strong notion, almost dogmatic as I've said before, that the schools (and therefore the government) can raise your children better than you can. Therefore, you will better serve society if you go out and over-pay for a four year liberal arts degree so that you can enter the work force like a woman is supposed to. Those that CHOOSE to go the domestic route shall be deemed "inferior".
This is an ideology that has been present in our society for 4 decades. I will repeat,
I am not against working women! I know that those of you on the left reading this will immediately brand me as "anti-woman" and "sexist", but I have absolutely no problem with a woman who decides to enter the work force on her own free will. The left seems to think that free will only goes in one direction and they snub their noses and look down upon the stay-at-home mom. What Hilary Rosen said about Ann Romney was not an isolated incident. She just made the mistake of being honest about how she felt. Ms. Rosen was merely expressing the view point that is held by several elitists on the left. Here are her comments as reminder followed by the distinguished Bill Maher <gag>.
Go to 4:40 to hear the comments specific to Ann Romney...